Fatimah
(Radiyallahu Anha) is the youngest daughter of our beloved Prophet
(Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam). Out of all the children, she was the most
beloved to him. He said, 'The Queen of the ladies in Jannat is
Fatimah.' He also said, 'Fatimah is part of my body. Whoever grieves
her, grieves me.'
Fatimah
(Radiyallahu Anha) is the youngest daughter of our beloved Prophet
(Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam). Out of all the children, she was the most
beloved to him. He said, 'The Queen of the ladies in Jannat is
Fatimah.' He also said, 'Fatimah is part of my body. Whoever grieves
her, grieves me.'
When
Fatimah (Radiyallahu Anha) reached the age of fifteen, proposals for
her marriage began to come from noble families. But the Prophet
(Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) remained irresponsive.
Ali
(Radiyallahu Anha) who was 21 at the time, says: It occurred to me
that I should make a formal proposal, but then I thought, 'How could
this be accomplished, for I possess nothing.' At last, encouraged by
the Prophet's kindness, I went to him and expressed my intention to
marry Fatima (Radiyallahu Anha). The Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi
Wasallam) was extremely pleased and asked, 'Ali! Do you possess
anything to give her in Mahr?' I replied, 'Apart from a horse and
armour I possess nothing.'
The Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) said, 'A soldier must, of course, have his horse. Go and sell away your armour.'
So,
Ali (Radiyallahu Anhu) went and sold his armour to Uthman (Radiyallahu
Anhu) for 480 Dirham and presented it to Rasulullah (Sallallaahu
Alayhi Wasallam). Bilal (Radiyallahu Anha) was ordered by the Prophet
(Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) to bring some perfume and a few other
things and Anas (Radiyallahu Anha) was sent to call Abu Bakr, Uthman,
Talha, Zubayr with some companions from the Ansar (Radiyallahu Anhum).
When
these men arrived and had taken their seats, the Prophet (Sallallahu
Alayhi Wasallam) recited the Khutbah (sermon) of Nikah and gave Fatimah
(Radiyallahu Anha) in marriage to Ali (Radhiallaahu Anhu). He
announced, 'Bear you all witness that I have given my daughter Fatimah
in marriage to Ali for 400 Mithqal of silver and Ali has accepted.' He
then raised his head and made Dua saying, 'O Allah, create love and
harmony between these two. Bless them and bestow upon them good
children.' after the Nikah, dates were distributed.
When
the time came for Fatimah (Radiyallahu Anha) to go to Ali's
(Radiyallahu Anha) house, she was sent without any clamour, hue and cry
accompanied by Umm Ayman (Radiyallahu Anha). After the Isha Salat, the
Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) went to their house, took
permission and entered. He asked for a basin of water, put his blessed
hands into it and sprinkled it on both Ali (Radiyallahu Anhu) and
Fatimah (Radiyallahu Anha) and made Dua for them.
The
sovereign of both worlds gave his beloved daughter a silver bracelet,
two Yemeni sheets, four mattresses, one blanket, one pillow, one cup,
one hand-grinding mill, one bedstead, a small water skin and a leather
pitcher.
Hence,
with much simplicity the wedding of the daughter of the leader of the
worlds was solemnised. In following this Sunnah method, a wedding
becomes easy to fulfill.
This blessed event teaches us important lessons pertaining to Nikah:
1.
The many customs that accompany engagement ceremonies are contrary to
the Sunnah. In fact, many are against the Shariah and are regarded
unlawful. A verbal proposal and answer is sufficient.
2. To perform Nikah at an early age is wise and beneficial.
3. It is advisable to invite close associates for the occasion of Nikah. However, extravagance should be avoided.
4. It is appropriate that the bridegroom be a few years older than the bride.
5. If the father of the girl is an Aalim or pious and capable of
performing Nikah, then he should himself solemnise the marriage.
6. It is good to give the Mahr Fatimi as dower.There is no harm in giving less.
7. It is un-Islamic for those, who do not possess the means, to incur debts in order to have grandiose weddings.
8. The present day practice of the intermingling of sexes at weddings is prohibited and contrary to the Shariah.
9. Great care must be taken as regards to Salat on occasions of marriage by all – including the bride and bridegroom.
10. The unnecessary expense incurred by the bride's family in holding a lavish feast has no basis in Shariah.
11. It is un-Islamic for the engaged couple to meet each other and also go out together.
12. Three things should be borne in mind when giving one's daughter gifts and presents at the time of Nikah:
- Gifts should be given within one's means (it is not permissible to take loans, on interest for such presents);
- To give necessary items;
- A show should not be made of whatever is given.
13. It is Sunnat for the bridegroom's family to make Walimah.
(Note: In Walimah, whatever is easily available should be fed to the
people and care should be taken that there is no extravagance, show and
that debt is not incurred in the process.)
14. To unduly delay Nikah after the engagement is un-Islamic.
